We have had friends at every stage of life. We hold onto the ones who were comforting at each stage. Starting from our school, college, tuition classes, neighbours, common friends, online friends, we feel comfort in various people whom we call friends, close friends, best friends and so on. We share a part of our life, dreams, goals, happiness and sorrow with them.
At each of these new phases, we grow internally and our thought process keeps changing with time. With every such new phase, there will be a change. Sometimes you lose touch with the ones who you have always been around, sometimes your friends feel you have changed, sometimes you feel you don't fit in to the gang anymore, sometimes each of you realise that you are looking at life very differently, sometimes you drift away, sometimes you are aliented and maybe with time, you don't talk to each other anymore.
Does it mean it was a mistake and the friendship has no value? No way. These were the same people who comforted us at different points in time in our life and the ones we shared a part of our life with. We may not talk anymore or share stories from our everyday life but that doesn't mean anything negative. Sometimes our role in a friendship could be to stay away and look at the other person's life, just wishing them good.
With all this, you still have few people whom you can call even after a year without any contact and you still start from where you had spoken last time. There are some people who stay with you in all ups and downs like a family. There are some people whom you think of whenever you have something to share, either happiness or sorrows. There are some people who put in that effort to be with you(and you must do too). There are some people whom you always prefer as your comfort in all weathers and all years to come. These are the ones who would stay.
We need to realise that in every phase of growth, people do change and change is important. Friendship is about helping the other person stay authentic and themselves without a need to change or hold back. Friendship is not about fitting in, it is being free without any judgements. Friendship is being for each other when they need you the most. In order to find good friends, we need to be 'that good friend.'
It is important to treasure every friendships. Some might chose to stay afar and be happy for you, some might be with you in every milestone but everyone had played a role in your life till date. This one is for everyone who has played their role in mine. Happy Friendship day :)
